A supposition for the Ladies...

[Bro Nobody]

My ramblings
I have come to a conclusion that I think is biblical, though very politically incorrect in today’s mindset. I would like feedback here from those who read here especially the ladies. Our orphanage children (all from abuse situations) came home from public school with comic books explaining family abuse. I read through it and found it was one long attack on manhood backed by the government and the UN ideals. It’s premise was good, hard to argue against the issue that abuse against women and children should be ended… but the problem in this teaching aid was clearly 100% always the men at fault.

The supposition is: Most marriages fail because the woman does not act in a godly manner.
Please understand I do not give a pass to the men in any way, God will hold them accountable. As have we with our children and people are in jail because of us. Just saying that if a woman truly acts in a godly way, then even a bad marriage would endure and likely grow in love at some point. The husband may even get saved.

Please let me explain why. The god given authority and responsibility in a marriage is biblically laid at the feet of the men. But the “true power” in a marriage belongs to the woman. Like a 90 lb jockey controlling a 2000lbs race horse. Or a 5 year old boy plowing with a 2500lb well trained draft horse and he obeys the soft simple words. The woman controls the man by meeting his needs and desires and in return he gives her what she wants. I have heard it said a marriage is a duet not a duel. This is true.

The modern political climate wants to effeminate men. But they are naturally the protector, provider. His front is to the world to fight off enemies and hunt/provide. His back is to his family and left unguarded. A godly woman in a marriage is a help meet, one that provides the needs to the man to keep him embolden, protecting and providing. When the woman is quarrelsome the attack comes from behind, his direction and attention is turned and that which makes him a good warrior is now directed at wife and family making him a bad husband. He is no longer the good protector, provider and worse he is now attacking that which is his supply. Queen Ester is a perfect example of the worst possible situation for a woman in today’s mindset. In modern mentality it would have been labeled, rape, forced marriage, kidnapping, pedophilia or an endless array of other terms. But she took the situation and acted godly and the LORD blessed her and a nation of people. She controlled the heart of the most powerful man in the world at the time…
Obviously 2 godly people is the best. A godly husband with an ungodly wife attacking has a high chance of failure. But a godly wife is a precious jewel that even the most powerful evil man will treasure and bend his will to.

Prov 31:10 Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
12 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.

Am I correct or am I all wet?

[IM4given]

Bro Nobody Wrote:The supposition is: Most marriages fail because the woman does not act in a godly manner.

I would not say that at all - it is at least 50-50.

As for male abusers, there is usually drugs and alcohol involved and a uncontrollable rage. Men are larger and can cause far more physical harm. However, I have seen women who are just as abusive as any man might be and for basically the same resons - they are out of their minds on drugs or alcohol.

[Bro Nobody]

Thanks forgiven. The supposition is that a Godly woman, truely Godly, can make or even heal a bad marriage. (this actually works both ways.) I think the woman has much more influence than the man in controlling an ungodly partner. After many years in ministry seeing the Bible truths play out for good and bad this become more clear. As I stated I do not excuses the men in any way, just trying to state the woman has the God given power/influence in a marriage. The truth is most women fail to use it in our modern world due to the more modern idea of equality. IE Men and Women are the same…they are not. Each is given attributes from God and in reality the woman has more influence in the marriage than a man. It is why the book of proverbs shares so much about the young man staying away from the flattering woman, who has learned some of these attributes for working sin… And the of the virtuous woman it is said of her husband he has no need of spoil… Men are simple, take care of our emotional and physical needs and we return it with doing that which keeps it continuing. Like a rat learning to work a button to get food. People get married because of needs being met…sometime after this changes.. I would defiantly not say it is 50/50. That’s the men and women are the same thinking not bible thinking. Its 100% laid at the feet of the husband, for he was in authority by God. But it is 100% laid at the feet of the woman for not humbling herself before the LORD and honoring Him and him(God and Husband) in all things. I cannot remember ever seeing the second happening in a divorce. Am I saying this is 100% foolproof? No sin abounds in the world and many other factors can be at play, but in the majority this is a major factor. A godly woman can easily put out a fire by the Holy Spirit but a proud one usually tosses in gas… Regardless who is “at Fault”