HOW A WIFE WEAKENS HER HUSBAND
I find it hard to believe that a woman is oblivious to the influence that she has over a man or men in general. In fact, I would say that we are very aware of the power of feminine persuasion! But in light of that truth, many of us flush our female influence down the toilet simply so we can have our own will and way in various settings, with no concern for the deep affect of our indifference or rebellion. And so, today’s devotion is centered on the topic of YOU and the impact of your wifely performance. I hope you are up for the confrontation! I have done some study and reflecting of my own and put together a list of ways that wives typically tamper with the character of their husbands. I’m certain there are more than are mentioned, but I think you’ll find it is plenty to tackle for now! Please take the time to look up the scripture references to heighten your understanding of each point. As Titus 2:4 and 1 Tim. 3:11 state, sobriety must be a woman’s distinguishing characteristic if she ever expects to have the right kind of influence in the life of her husband, her children, the church, and society in general. In fact, a lack of sobriety will leave you disinclined to look into the matters I’ve listed below. And if that is the case, your husband is already in trouble!
1. NAGGING SPIRIT (Acts 16:16-1
2. WEEPING AND WHINING (Judges 14:15-17)
3. CRITICIZE HIS PREACHER (Mark 6:17-19)
4. CONSTANTLY CORRECT HIM/USURP HIS AUTHORITY (1 Tim. 2:12)
5. BLAME GOD FOR ADVERSITY (Job 2:9)
6. ACCOMPANY HIM IN WRONG DOING (Acts 5:1-2)
7. STIR HIM UP IN EVIL (1 Kings 21:25)
8. SUPPLY HIM WITH UNSCRIPTURAL COUNSEL (Esther 5:14)
9. NEVER PRAY FOR HIM (1 Tim. 2:1-2)
10. DESPISE HIS ADVANCEMENTS (2 Samuel 6:16)
11. CAUSE HIM TO DOUBT YOUR CHARACTER (Proverbs 31:11-12)
12. EXCESSIVE PRAISE OF OTHER MEN (1 Samuel 18:7)
13. NEVER SEEK HIS GUIDANCE (1 Cor. 14:35)
14. PERSONAL LAZINESS (Proverbs 31:13-28, Proverbs 19:15)
15. GRIEVE HIS PARENTS (Genesis 26:34-35, Proverbs 12:4)
16. DESPISE MOTHERHOOD (Psalm 127:4-5, Titus 2:4)
17. PLAY FAVORITES WITH HIS CHILDREN (Genesis 27:6-29)
18. INTERFERE WITH CHILD DISCIPLINE (1 Tim. 2:4-5)
19. BE A REASON HE COULDN’T ANSWER GOD’S CALL (Luke 19:14)
20. NEGLECT HIS PHYSICAL & EMOTIONAL NEEDS (Proverbs 5:18-19, 1 Cor. 7:5)
Oswald Chambers said, The radiating influence of one person rightly related to God is incalculable Ladies, I hope that you will make it your business to assess your wifely influence in your husband’s life and be sure that it is strengthening him and intensifying his relationship with the Lord rather than weakening it. I’m not advocating becoming a pushy person, but a stronger Christian. If you have learned some things about yourself by way of this list and your influence is not holy, correct it and cultivate it according to the Word of God. It is the most natural thing to be like the person you live with most, therefore live most with Jesus Christ. This too, was said by Oswald Chambers and I join him in counseling you the same.
Copyright 2006 Pamela A. Iannello

I might just add that it's not the husband's duty to see that his wife submits to him. God requires the wife to submit to her husband.
1 Peter 3:1 ¶Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; 2 While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear. 3 Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; 4 But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price. 5 For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: 6 Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.